I was asked the other day how do I deal with Triggers when I'm out with my Kiddos or alone? Perfect question and it is a tricky situation at times. I remember back almost 2 years ago I was surrounded by triggers. I couldn't even go to church without being triggered and it was real … Continue reading Q & A of the Day
When it came out that my Husband had a sex addiction I was obviously hurt because I was his Wife and this was the ultimate betrayal. But, I also was hurt because I am a victim of sexual abuse. From the time I was 3 years old until I was out of Foster Care at … Continue reading Sweaty Crotch…..
The very first thing that my Husband did for me after all the secrets were out on the table was to create safety. It was natural to him thankfully and after we started therapy just a few weeks later we realized we were already doing some of the things that they were suggesting. So, how … Continue reading Creating Safety for Your Spouse to Recover Too
What did you do when you were a little kid and was sad, scared, hurt, overwhelmed, confused, embarrassed or ashamed? I ate and cut myself and my Husband watched porn and masturbated. It's crazy to think back and really look at what you did as a child for comfort. I had a crazy childhood filled … Continue reading The Perfect Storm for Addiction
Ok, so you know now your Spouse has a Sex addiction. You have yourself and your Family in a safe place. I say this because you have to make sure that you are safe, especially with kids. I have heard some really sad stories about harm coming to Spouses after discovery. Please be careful and … Continue reading Reading to Heal from Sex Addiction
I am often asked what can I ask my Spouse? You can ask them Anything and Everything!! You are the one who was betrayed and they need to be transparent with you. Especially if you are working on keeping your Marriage and Family together. Your Husband or Wife did sexual activities without you and then … Continue reading What Questions Can You Ask??
What a weekend....it was a great weekend, but even with Great weekends we have Triggers. Let me explain, my Husband has a cheap old non-smart cell phone. He gave up his brand new phone after I discovered his addiction along with access to his computer. He used to spend more hours tucked away on his … Continue reading All Triggers need Boundaries
Okay, that title might have scared you a little bit. But, I can assure you my Hubby is safe and sound. I'm going to talk briefly today about Triggers. Even though I'm kind of going through my whole story, I realize that there are some people reading this that are in the thick of discovery … Continue reading Trigger Happy
I never in a million years thought my Husband would ever struggle with sex addiction! I mean really, like that is a real thing! Our daughter literally said that she would have believed that her Dad murdered someone before sleeping with prostitutes. I think because he was always home. He went to work in the … Continue reading Come into the Light…..
One day I will have my Husband share his story, but for today I will retell it how I remember. This is a story about unconditional love, forgiveness, acceptance and transparency. This is my Husband's story about his journey to find God in the closet. It had only been a few days since he had … Continue reading He Found God in the Closet