Reading to Heal from Sex Addiction

Ok, so you know now your Spouse has a Sex addiction.  You have yourself and your Family in a safe place.  I say this because you have to make sure that you are safe, especially with kids.  I have heard some really sad stories about harm coming to Spouses after discovery.  Please be careful and …

Sex on the Brain

I walk in the room and my huge Mom bag filled with books, magazines, little bits of scribbled on papers and gum wrappers dangle off my shoulder.  My arms are filled with notebooks crammed with my thoughts, lists of questions and my highly calculated timeline of my marriage.  I am a Solver, I solve all …

All Triggers need Boundaries

What a weekend....it was a great weekend, but even with Great weekends we have Triggers.  Let me explain, my Husband has a cheap old non-smart cell phone.  He gave up his brand new phone after I discovered his addiction along with access to his computer.  He used to spend more hours tucked away on his …

And then the Kids found out

We have been celebrating Birthday's and Mother's Day around here, so I have been extra busy around here.  I have been thinking a lot about this past year.  We have healed and grown so much in not only our Faith, but our Trust in each other.  I know I mentioned that our two oldest Kiddos …

Who needs some Hope? Why Forgiveness Matters….

I think that was the number one thing I needed in the very beginning.  I just needed to know that there was at least a handful of Families out there that lived to tell about their run in with sex addiction.  I kept asking, Please God, will we make it?  Well, I decided to shut …

And then there was GOD!

We had recently moved a few months before I found out about my Husband's addiction.  There was a church SUPER close to our new house, like I can almost see the lights from the end of my road.  We had been going to church off and on for years.  I grew up in the church …

Seeing the Light when there is None

My feelings after the discovery of my Husband's addiction were explosive to say the very least.  I went back to old coping mechanisms that sheltered me through years of abuse as a child.  Cutting, burning, drinking, screaming and lashing out either on paper or to the one who caused the pain.  In this instance it …

He Found God in the Closet

One day I will have my Husband share his story, but for today I will retell it how I remember.  This is a story about unconditional love, forgiveness, acceptance and transparency.  This is my Husband's story about his journey to find God in the closet. It had only been a few days since he had …

More Pieces to Our Puzzle

So, I was fit to be tied!  I had suffered literally my Whole Life with Sexual, Emotional and Physical abuse.  When I met my Husband 18 years ago he promised to keep me safe and that I would never have to be scared or hurt again.  And in all fairness I believe that was his …

Beautiful Day for Therapy!

It truly is a Beautiful day for Therapy....my mind needs it.  I don't know where you are on your journey, but we are at 17 months since D Day.  Once the initial shock and Trauma of it all has simmered down you, the Spouse will need to patch yourself together.  Betrayal is the hardest thing …