Creating Safety for Your Spouse to Recover Too

The very first thing that my Husband did for me after all the secrets were out on the table was to create safety.  It was natural to him thankfully and after we started therapy just a few weeks later we realized we were already doing some of the things that they were suggesting.  So, how … Continue reading Creating Safety for Your Spouse to Recover Too

When Sparks Fly Carefully Put Them Out……

Life is better now, all is good...the threatening storm has changed it's course and all is well in my neck of the woods. So, I did talk to my Husband about my Trigger.  And I was reminded that sometimes he's Triggered when I get Triggered, which is why we have to be a Team working … Continue reading When Sparks Fly Carefully Put Them Out……

Today’s Trigger brought to You by Sex Addiction……..

How does a Trigger feel?  Well, I can tell you because I'm in the middle of one right now!!!  I'm so upset and angry at myself, at the world and everything in between.  Today my Husband was supposed to do something with our kids.  And the two youngest had no desire to do so.  Our … Continue reading Today’s Trigger brought to You by Sex Addiction……..

Tending to My Garden……

Last night I went to our Christian 12 step meeting.....Celebrate Recovery.  We have been going for a few months now, and honestly I've been pretty quiet during the share time.  I long for the first hour of the meeting each week because it's worship singing, scripture reading and every week they rotate between someone sharing … Continue reading Tending to My Garden……

The Deep and then the Deeper

What have I been up to lately?  Well, coming back from a 10 day vacation almost makes me feel like I need another vacation from my vacation.  I've come down with an awful deep cough.  It's so deep I pee myself almost every time I cough.....I'm literally writing this in the bathroom, because I'm giving … Continue reading The Deep and then the Deeper