Here is a little snippet of some of my Life before Discovery of my Husband's Sex Addiction.....It was a week before I turned 13 that my Mom went to live with Jesus. I can't believe it's been 26 years. That seems like such a lifetime ago. I had just lost my Dad the year before … Continue reading Her Name was Violet…….
Been really busy trying to pack and get ready for our vacation. Yesterday I had a full on panic attack, I was tense all day and totally had a Lupus flare. Nothing crazy happened, no triggers, no misbehaving kids, just a regular day organizing and packing. It wasn't until my Husband told me to sit … Continue reading Situational Trigger be Gone Says the Little Girl
It was early December when I found out and the very next week I was supposed to host a Christmas dinner for about 30 couples from our Homeschool group. It was my 1st full year with these people and being the Codependent person I am, of course I would sign up to do a HUGE … Continue reading Who Not to Tell about Your Husband’s Sex Addiction and Why
We are planning Summer vacations right now. We haven't went on a Summer Vacation in 3 or 4 years, minus the little camping trip we tried to take last April. We were only 5 good months into the Recovery process, so that was probably stupid on our part to try to go camping. I was … Continue reading Vacation Triggers~What we are doing differently this year
What did you do when you were a little kid and was sad, scared, hurt, overwhelmed, confused, embarrassed or ashamed? I ate and cut myself and my Husband watched porn and masturbated. It's crazy to think back and really look at what you did as a child for comfort. I had a crazy childhood filled … Continue reading The Perfect Storm for Addiction
Ok, so you know now your Spouse has a Sex addiction. You have yourself and your Family in a safe place. I say this because you have to make sure that you are safe, especially with kids. I have heard some really sad stories about harm coming to Spouses after discovery. Please be careful and … Continue reading Reading to Heal from Sex Addiction
I am often asked what can I ask my Spouse? You can ask them Anything and Everything!! You are the one who was betrayed and they need to be transparent with you. Especially if you are working on keeping your Marriage and Family together. Your Husband or Wife did sexual activities without you and then … Continue reading What Questions Can You Ask??
I walk in the room and my huge Mom bag filled with books, magazines, little bits of scribbled on papers and gum wrappers dangle off my shoulder. My arms are filled with notebooks crammed with my thoughts, lists of questions and my highly calculated timeline of my marriage. I am a Solver, I solve all … Continue reading Sex on the Brain
What a weekend....it was a great weekend, but even with Great weekends we have Triggers. Let me explain, my Husband has a cheap old non-smart cell phone. He gave up his brand new phone after I discovered his addiction along with access to his computer. He used to spend more hours tucked away on his … Continue reading All Triggers need Boundaries
We have been celebrating Birthday's and Mother's Day around here, so I have been extra busy around here. I have been thinking a lot about this past year. We have healed and grown so much in not only our Faith, but our Trust in each other. I know I mentioned that our two oldest Kiddos … Continue reading And then the Kids found out